The Father to the Fatherless

This is for those of you who grew up with a unloving, inconsistent Father figure. Those who were abandoned, rejected and could not put your hope and faith in your dad.  Those who had a dad who valued work over you, or took advantage of your kindness and fragility. That was not the way family was intended to be. You are worth investing in, more then that you are worth crossing oceans for. The things you have to say hold insurmountable value, and time with you is irreplaceable. The giftings you carry in your life were meant to be recognized and cultivated by your parents. I am sorry that your upbringing didn’t contain a overall sense that you are loved. And that love not being dependent on what you did or didn’t do. No matter if you grew up with a dad or not today there is a invitation to have a relationship with the ultimate Father, who is the Lord.

One of the roadblocks into relationship with Him could ultimately be the way you were treated by your family growing up. I want to suggest the idea that the way you view your earthly Father is the same way you will view God. Not in the context that your earthly dad has Godly powers, but in the sense that if your dad is distant then you will see God as a distant God who has the power to have a close personal relationship with you but ultimately chooses not to. Someone who could come to your aid, but refuses.

Without knowing who God is we assume He is like the most relate-able figure we know. When the reality is; God is the opposite of human nature. He is the epitome of love and can not act inconsistently from His Identity. In him we are fully loved and delighted in, and without this truth in your life you will struggle with believing the lie that God is not good, and God does not care. We tend to let our circumstances define our view of God rather then allowing the Lord to define what our circumstances should look like.

Here’s what you need to know in the core of your soul: You are loved passionately  by a man who died so that He could have a relationship with you. He’s not scared of you messing up or failing. Your dirty laundry doesn’t stop him from pursuing you. If you do not decide to follow him He will love you 100%, if you are unlovable he loves you 100%. There is nothing that you could do to take away His love for you.  When He choose to die on the cross he already knew all of the mistakes you were going to make, and He has been pursuing you since the day you were born! He delights in you, and rejoices over you daily, He really is a happy Father! He wants to do life with you, everyday!It’s not in Gods nature to lie to you, it’s not his nature to give you something and take it away. He’s faithful to you. His nature is kind. He is gentle with your heart.

The bible talks about evil dads knowing how to give good gifts, and if they do how much more the Lord wants to give us good gifts. (Matthew 7:11). I actually believe this scripture was not only one to reveal the Lords nature but a invitation to ask him for good things. For those of you who have a good father this may be easy. But those of you who struggle with depending on others and a self sufficiency you may struggle at first.

Here is my challenge this week for those of you who have pushed God away because of a earthly struggle with your natural dad. First ask the Lord how he sees you, and really allow him to come in and heal those broken places. Remember that it is IMPOSSIBLE for Him not to talk to you. He desires a relationship with you and is faithful to come when you ask. Last but not least when there is lack or need in your life give it to him, and ask for His help. The Bible says when we ask according to His will we will receive. If you start to believe in God as a Father and believe He wants good things for you then you will begin to see your life radically change.

This Fathers Day know you are loved deeply by an unchangeable unshakable man, who will never give up on you. He’s a safe place to put your hope.

Brow Game: Strong

For those of you who love beauty fails you are going to really enjoy this! About a month ago I decided to dye my hair due to my roots being grown out. I went to the store, picked up the typical box dye on the shelf as I normally do and headed home. 30 minutes later my hair was orange. Ahhh! Horrifying right? It gets worse.

In a petrified panic I sped back to the store! There was no way I was going to willingly go to work Monday morning looking like a carrot head. I bought another box off the shelf, (different brand of course) and tried to fix it. I sadly have to admit that this did not fix it but actually made it worse. Usually at this point logic would kick in and say, ” You tried and failed, and now it’s time to go to the salon.” BUT NO! Not me… for I am far to persistent then that!

If you had to guess how many times I dyed my hair, how many would it be? Three times? Four? Nope. You would be wrong! I dyed my hair 7 times! If any of you are wondering that is 6 more times then the recommended amount on the box. Yes I am ashamed, yes I thought my hair was going to fall out, and no it did not fix it. Now I know you read the blog title and thought you were going to hear some wisdom on brows, and I promise you that we will get there, after this amazing story on my hair!

After many tears and much encouragement from my sweet husband I gave in and decided to head to the salon. I know some of you read that and let out a sigh of relief. Some of us learn the easy way and others have to dye their hair SEVEN times to realize that they are NOT a professional hairstylist. The talented hairstylist dyed my hair a beautiful blonde shade that I was unable to attain on my own. The only problem being is my brows were a dark brown and my hair was a light blonde.

This is where my guidance comes into play:

 

I used Jolen Mild creme bleach to get my eyebrows a lighter shade. I only had to leave the creme on for a couple minutes for it to work. The nice thing is you get some much product that you can wipe it off your brows if you are feeling like it’s been on them to long, and reapply whenever new growth happens. It is extremely easy to use and worth checking out. Switching to a lighter look meant a lighter brow pencil. I went with the NYX Brow pencil in Taupe. It is actually a dupe for the Anastasia brow pencil so it is extremely affordable!! And below is my end result!

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Please comment below with your thoughts or more importantly stories of your own beauty fails. I would love to hear them all! I love you all lots, thanks for stopping by!

xo.

Why Your New Years Resolution Sucks.

Here’s the problem with achieving your New Years goals: The odds are stacked against you. We are creatures of habit and according to several studies this means that if you want to meet your New Years goal, you will have to work consistently hard at it for a little over 9 weeks…That’s 66 days to be specific. Ironically 66 is said to be the Devils number, just like going to the gym for 66 days in a row..hellish. According to a Forbes article only 8% of people are able to complete their New Years Resolutions. I am not here to be a Pessimistic Polly though. I am sure you are different than everyone else, and I am sure this article is for the 92% of quitters…not you!

One of the things I think we can all agree on is when we think about our New Year’s Resolution they provides us with a glimpse of hope. We are able to look into our future and see the people who we have always wanted to become- The skinnier, richer version of ourselves that is. Which in itself isn’t bad. However 92% of us are still failing at achieving these goals that we claim we will spend the year achieving. Here is why I believe we are failing:

A. We couldn’t find a solid way to turn our dream into a reality. We want to be rich but it’s hard to get a good paying job in a declining economy.

B. We felt like it was to much work. Getting up at 5am every day before work to go to the gym, then working 8 hour days is extremely exhausting!

C. We weren’t passionate about the things we were doing.

Despite failing at these goals year after year we continue to make new ones. If I could make one suggestion as to finding a way to join that 8% of people it would be choosing something you are passionate about, choose to fulfill one of the deep desires hidden in your heart. Joseph Campbell once said: “Passion will move men beyond themselves, beyond their shortcomings, beyond their failures. ” Meaning you will no longer have to force yourself to do the tasks that you told yourself you would complete this year, there will now be a pure motivation and desire that will drive you to do them.

If you are set on sticking with a a previous goal that you are not passionate about, intertwine it with a passion! I loath going to the gym, I rather be in bed watching Netflix on any day of the week. I am however passionate about competitions. My husband knowns this more than anyone- I turn board games, and everything else in my life into a bet. I love winning, its just something that ingrained in me. I can use this passion to stick to a goal of going to the gym. I find that having way someone with me to compete with, or just compete with myself really helps.

The way to set yourself up for success is using what you are good at to reach any goal. If you use what someone else is good at it  to accomplish what you want, it can take you twice as much work as it takes that person. You were designed uniquely and filled with giftings that only you will be able to use to affect and change the world around you. Use them, and make this a successful year of achieving your goals and dreams!

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You make me Brave

Fear should never be the leader of your life, or dictator of your dreams. Yet, fear still holds our voices at times, causing us not to be heard or known. We are afraid of what people will think so we choose not to share our hearts . We stay silent to keep peace and save face. The truth being that we are not called to sacrifice truth in order to protect people’s feelings. Fear is not suppose to outweigh the value of our words.

When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak. -Audre Lorde.

You were created to be heard.There are graveyards full of unwritten books and stories that people let slip away because they believed what they had to say wasn’t valuable.

You are carrying a significant gifting on your life. You are not called to act out of fear but be someone who through loving-kindness you share your heart. Love is many things however it is not deceitful. There is nothing toxic that comes from giving and receiving genuine love. You should always be truthful, and in your truthfulness others will find value and the breakthrough in their lives that they so desperately need.

People pleasing hides the real you. The fear of man will ultimately gain you nothing. If you desire people to get to know the real you, it requires you to be vulnerable. Vulnerability will not always be well received, however your words in a situation have the power to change the situation itself. It does not do anyone a favour to hide who you are, because ultimately you are the one who loses the most. If you cannot lower the walls that you have built to protect yourself, it will create an inability to receive love and be fully known. Sometimes you don’t realize the weight of your words until you are able to feel the weight of their release.

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Luxe

Overall it has been a productive weekend. The house is clean, I got a new phone and I finally got my brakes changed just in time for winter! I was just as inspired to share my outfit today, photo credits go to my wonderful husband.

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Thanks for checking in and I hope you all have a wonderful week. XO.

Morning Glory

Hello Lovelies!! Tonight me and Michael cooked this delicious meal for our family and it was to good not to share! We cooked mixed berry cream cheese crepes and a crescent roll bacon breakfast ring…I would be lying if I said I didn’t go back into the fridge and grab some leftovers while writing this post.

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I don’t know if you’ve ever seen pinterest fails of things people have tried to make and failed but I have to admit I thought this was going to be one of them. However it was a lot easier then it looks. If I could make it then so can you…. and here’s how:

 

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Here’s what you will need:

1 can Pillsbury Crescents (8 in a can)
8 slices of cooked bacon
½ red bell pepper, chopped
½ green bell pepper, chopped
5 eggs
1 cup cheddar cheese, shredded
salt and pepper to taste
1 egg for egg wash (optional)

What to do:
Preheat oven to 375 F degrees.
In a bowl beat the eggs and add the chopped peppers to it and stir. Season with salt and pepper. Cook the eggs in a skillet so that they’re scrambled.
Lay out the crescent on a parchment pepper, like a star as shown in the picture above.
On each crescent lay a piece of bacon. Add half of the cheese around the ring. Add the scrambled eggs around the ring and top with remainder of the cheese.
Fold the crescents over. You may now brush with the egg wash if you prefer, I did because it gives the ring a nice and golden colour.
Bake for about 20 minutes or until the crescents are cooked and golden brown.

Once you’ve got that cooking start on your crepe…

Ingredients
3/4 cup milk
1/2 cup water
1 tablespoon coconut sugar (or brown sugar)
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
2 large eggs
1 cup white whole wheat flour

Berry Sauce:
1 cup fresh or frozen raspberries
1 cup fresh or frozen blueberries
1 cup fresh or frozen sliced strawberries
1/2 cup sugar
1/2 cup water
1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon
Filling:
4 oz cream cheese, softened
2 tablespoons sugar
2 tablespoons lemon juice

Instructions
Prepare the crepes: Place all crepe ingredients in a blender. Blend on high speed a few seconds until completely smooth. Transfer batter to a measuring glass and chill in refrigerator at least 30 minutes (batter may be stored in fridge up to 1 day)
While the crepe batter chills, prepare the berry sauce: Place all sauce ingredients in a medium saucepan. Bring to a simmer over medium-high heat, then reduce to low and let simmer, stirring occasionally until sauce is reduced and slightly thickened. Remove from heat and set aside.

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Make the filling: Place cream cheese and sugar in a small bowl. With a handheld electric mixer, beat on medium speed until creamed. Add lemon juice and continue beating until filling is smooth and creamy. Set aside.
Cook the crepes: Heat a lightly-greased non-stick skillet over medium-high heat. Working in batches pour 1/4 cup batter in pan. Cook 1-2 minutes on first side, then flip and cook an additional 1 minute on opposite side. Transfer to a serving plate and keep warm. Repeat with remaining batter.
Assemble the crepes: Evenly spread cream cheese filling over each of the crepes. Fold crepes into quarters. Serve immediately with warm berry sauce on top. Enjoy!

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And voila! There you have it! We will definitely be making this again 🙂

Let me know how your adventures in making this recipe goes

Much Love-GG

A place that feels like home

Today my question to you is what do you place your hope in? Is it in your own ability? Is it in the Lord? Do you have you hope in your spouse or your kids? Your job? Your money?

Right now I am sitting precisely 1660 km away from Redding California, “The City of Hope”.  I don’t know if I could begin to express how much being there ever meant to me, but I will do my best to try. In 2006 my mom died from a drunk driver crashing into her car. I was 14, and relied heavily on my mom up until that point. My family literally fell apart after.  My dad buried himself in work, leaving his three broken children to try and figure out how to raise themselves. It was one hard year after another- and I lacked in much, but most of all I lacked the affirmation, and care that a mother brings.

Fast forward several years to after high school where you find a very angry , bitter girl who seeks love and affirmation from men because she hadn’t found any in her father. At the time my brother came back from Bethel School in Redding. He was  visiting for the christmas season, and had persuaded me to throw my hat in the ring to see if I could get accepted into the same school. I was accepted almost immediately after applying and the very next year ended up traveling to Redding with my brother.

In the years that I was there felt like I was alive again. A place where I could finally breathe and get the healing I so desperately needed. While there people loved on me so extravagantly that I began to open up and love again. I grew in faith, confidence and finally had a hope for the future. That was until I got a call to return home, my visa had expired in the States and it was time to go. I remember having a week left and  feeling like I was returning home to a funeral.

Hopeless and feeling alone I spent months searching for every possible option to get back to the place that I once was. Nothing worked and no door opened. I had trusted in myself to be able to get where I wanted to go and ultimately failed. The Bible says: “The Lord will open doors that no man can close, and close doors that no man can open. In my case I believe that the Lord so graciously brought me to a place that I felt alive and got healing for my benefit. He made a way for me to go and provided extravagantly for it. He still hasn’t opened the door for me to return yet.

Here’s what I believe about the situation. I believe regardless of the current circumstances and my hearts desires that God is good. I don’t believe he’s cruel enough that he would put dreams our heart and not fulfill them. In the seasons where we don’t see him moving we have to believe that he is for us and ultimately has our best interest in heart. If I would have left when I wanted to leave I would have never met my husband Michael. He’s my best friend and a HUGE answer to prayer. Even though I am not where I currently want to be, I have to believe that it is because that Lord still has a purpose for me here and good things coming, and one day I believe that he will open a door to go back when the time is right.

Today I want to challenge you to put your hope in the Lord. If you have never experienced him as a good father, ask him to reveal himself to you. He is faithful and he is for you. It is not inherently evil trusting in things like your family, money or jobs however they are all things that can fail you. Put you hope in the unshakable one, the one who made you with all your hopes, dreams and desires and can open the doors to bring them to fulfillment in your life.

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