This is for those of you who grew up with a unloving, inconsistent Father figure. Those who were abandoned, rejected and could not put your hope and faith in your dad. Those who had a dad who valued work over you, or took advantage of your kindness and fragility. That was not the way family was intended to be. You are worth investing in, more then that you are worth crossing oceans for. The things you have to say hold insurmountable value, and time with you is irreplaceable. The giftings you carry in your life were meant to be recognized and cultivated by your parents. I am sorry that your upbringing didn’t contain a overall sense that you are loved. And that love not being dependent on what you did or didn’t do. No matter if you grew up with a dad or not today there is a invitation to have a relationship with the ultimate Father, who is the Lord.
One of the roadblocks into relationship with Him could ultimately be the way you were treated by your family growing up. I want to suggest the idea that the way you view your earthly Father is the same way you will view God. Not in the context that your earthly dad has Godly powers, but in the sense that if your dad is distant then you will see God as a distant God who has the power to have a close personal relationship with you but ultimately chooses not to. Someone who could come to your aid, but refuses.
Without knowing who God is we assume He is like the most relate-able figure we know. When the reality is; God is the opposite of human nature. He is the epitome of love and can not act inconsistently from His Identity. In him we are fully loved and delighted in, and without this truth in your life you will struggle with believing the lie that God is not good, and God does not care. We tend to let our circumstances define our view of God rather then allowing the Lord to define what our circumstances should look like.
Here’s what you need to know in the core of your soul: You are loved passionately by a man who died so that He could have a relationship with you. He’s not scared of you messing up or failing. Your dirty laundry doesn’t stop him from pursuing you. If you do not decide to follow him He will love you 100%, if you are unlovable he loves you 100%. There is nothing that you could do to take away His love for you. When He choose to die on the cross he already knew all of the mistakes you were going to make, and He has been pursuing you since the day you were born! He delights in you, and rejoices over you daily, He really is a happy Father! He wants to do life with you, everyday!It’s not in Gods nature to lie to you, it’s not his nature to give you something and take it away. He’s faithful to you. His nature is kind. He is gentle with your heart.
The bible talks about evil dads knowing how to give good gifts, and if they do how much more the Lord wants to give us good gifts. (Matthew 7:11). I actually believe this scripture was not only one to reveal the Lords nature but a invitation to ask him for good things. For those of you who have a good father this may be easy. But those of you who struggle with depending on others and a self sufficiency you may struggle at first.
Here is my challenge this week for those of you who have pushed God away because of a earthly struggle with your natural dad. First ask the Lord how he sees you, and really allow him to come in and heal those broken places. Remember that it is IMPOSSIBLE for Him not to talk to you. He desires a relationship with you and is faithful to come when you ask. Last but not least when there is lack or need in your life give it to him, and ask for His help. The Bible says when we ask according to His will we will receive. If you start to believe in God as a Father and believe He wants good things for you then you will begin to see your life radically change.
This Fathers Day know you are loved deeply by an unchangeable unshakable man, who will never give up on you. He’s a safe place to put your hope.