Why Your New Years Resolution Sucks.

Here’s the problem with achieving your New Years goals: The odds are stacked against you. We are creatures of habit and according to several studies this means that if you want to meet your New Years goal, you will have to work consistently hard at it for a little over 9 weeks…That’s 66 days to be specific. Ironically 66 is said to be the Devils number, just like going to the gym for 66 days in a row..hellish. According to a Forbes article only 8% of people are able to complete their New Years Resolutions. I am not here to be a Pessimistic Polly though. I am sure you are different than everyone else, and I am sure this article is for the 92% of quitters…not you!

One of the things I think we can all agree on is when we think about our New Year’s Resolution they provides us with a glimpse of hope. We are able to look into our future and see the people who we have always wanted to become- The skinnier, richer version of ourselves that is. Which in itself isn’t bad. However 92% of us are still failing at achieving these goals that we claim we will spend the year achieving. Here is why I believe we are failing:

A. We couldn’t find a solid way to turn our dream into a reality. We want to be rich but it’s hard to get a good paying job in a declining economy.

B. We felt like it was to much work. Getting up at 5am every day before work to go to the gym, then working 8 hour days is extremely exhausting!

C. We weren’t passionate about the things we were doing.

Despite failing at these goals year after year we continue to make new ones. If I could make one suggestion as to finding a way to join that 8% of people it would be choosing something you are passionate about, choose to fulfill one of the deep desires hidden in your heart. Joseph Campbell once said: “Passion will move men beyond themselves, beyond their shortcomings, beyond their failures. ” Meaning you will no longer have to force yourself to do the tasks that you told yourself you would complete this year, there will now be a pure motivation and desire that will drive you to do them.

If you are set on sticking with a a previous goal that you are not passionate about, intertwine it with a passion! I loath going to the gym, I rather be in bed watching Netflix on any day of the week. I am however passionate about competitions. My husband knowns this more than anyone- I turn board games, and everything else in my life into a bet. I love winning, its just something that ingrained in me. I can use this passion to stick to a goal of going to the gym. I find that having way someone with me to compete with, or just compete with myself really helps.

The way to set yourself up for success is using what you are good at to reach any goal. If you use what someone else is good at it  to accomplish what you want, it can take you twice as much work as it takes that person. You were designed uniquely and filled with giftings that only you will be able to use to affect and change the world around you. Use them, and make this a successful year of achieving your goals and dreams!


Taking Care of the Bill-Accountability

This week at work a customer came in looking to pick up a order that his boss had made over the phone. Upon searching for the order, me and my co-workers discovered that it was not in our system. This was peculiar, as it was the first time this had ever happened in my time working for my employer. Immediately my mind went to giving him the benefit of the doubt. “What if his boss forgot to call in?” “Maybe the order was done under a different account name?” In the middle of trying to find a solution for this man, he decided to call his boss. Loudly and for the whole company to hear he says, “These idiots don’t know how to do their job and can’t figure anything out.”

Over the phone, the boss describes to this man the person whom he believes helped him place the order. The customer in the store thinks I match the “description” and then of course accuses me of being the person responsible for this problem. Sigh. Thankfully, I am protected by the fact that my job duties don’t include placing orders. As I look across the room I see my co-worker mouthing a name, the name of a business located two blocks away from us. I turned back to the man and asked him if he could have possibly mistaken this other business for ours?  His face went expressionless as the lightbulb turned on in his head and he turned away and left the room without saying another word. This man took no accountability for his actions. He came in called me and my co-workers names, he was rude and felt justified in it. He was proven foolish and in the wrong but still he left without expressing any remorse for what he had done.

One of the biggest lies that we can believe is that we are powerless victims of our own circumstance. We tend to avoid responsibility for our own conduct by blaming others for the contributing factors that led us inevitably to our negative actions. The path to wrong-doing was not our intention, the people involved hurt us and brought events to this outcome so logically we must not be 100% to blame. But does that logic really equal innocence? If someone hurts us in a major way, does it justify our retaliation? Even if our retaliation is small by comparison, can we weigh our slights against each other and find one to be just? Believing we can will only immobilize us, causing us to blame others for what we need to take responsibility for; our own hearts. Yes someone could have hurt you in a situation, but that does not make what you did permissible. Toxic people project their own character defects onto their victims. They do this by accusing the victim of the exact actions they themselves deny. More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren’t so busy denying them. Maturity comes when you stop making excuses and start making changes.

Another thing that will stop us from taking accountability is using our feelings to override the truth. You are always responsible for how you act, no matter how you feel. Moreover, your feelings are not always truth. Your feelings can and will lie to you. For example, just because I feel like someone thinks or believes something about me doesn’t make it the truth or a fact. Just because your pain is understandable does not mean your behaviour is acceptable. There is no better test of a man’s integrity than his behaviour when he is wrong or hurting.

These are some of the things that you are accountable for:
• The way in which you communicate with others
• How you spend your time
• Your behaviour and manners
• The consideration and respect you show towards others
• Your attitude and thoughts
• The way you respond

Do not apologize for someone else’s feelings. “I’m sorry you’re mad,” is not an apology, it is condescending. Do apologize for your own actions and attitude. “I’m sorry I was rude,” is an apology that takes ownership. Be specific about what you did wrong. “I’m sorry for whatever made you mad” Is NOT going to work. Don’t add an excuse to your apology. I’m sorry I was rude, but I was really irritated,” means you’re not really sorry. You feel justified for the way you acted and you expect to be excused.
Do ask for forgiveness when you apologize: “I’m sorry,” on it’s own, is just a statement. It requires no response. “Will you forgive me?” is a humble request that can rebuild a relationship. When you ask your friend to forgive you, wait and listen. Be prepared for the response, “I need a minute, I’m not there right now.” When you are in the wrong, you are never owed forgiveness but be grateful when you do receive it. Don’t expect a reciprocal apology. For example, let’s say you were in a fight. You were both rude and hostile towards each other and now you’ve decided to be the brave one and apologize first. Do not apologize expecting your friend to apologize equally. When you have done something wrong, take responsibility for your part of it. The end. Do attempt to make a repair. Rome was not built in a day, and neither are relationships. Trust takes time to earn back, it’s a slow process but quitting will not speed it up.
Last but not least, if there are people in your life who avoid apologizing or taking accountability for their actions, I believe there are two things you need to do.
First of all, forgive them. I can forgive someone but that doesn’t mean I accept their behaviour or trust them. I forgive them for me, so I can let go and move on. Stay away from people who can’t take responsibility for their actions and who make you feel bad for holding them accountable when they do something hurtful. Part of relationships means being vulnerable and truthful. The vulnerability that honesty requires is not something that everyone can handle. Lying allows people to be comfortable.
Secondly, create boundaries. Some of you need to do this with family members and friends in your life, not just those who hurt you. Boundaries are not mean, they are created to protect you in relationship and create a place where you and others can be healthy and thrive. What is a boundary? A boundary is a definite place where your responsibility ends and another person’s begins. It stops you from doing things for others that they should do for themselves. A boundary also prevents you from rescuing someone from the consequences of their destructive behaviour that they need to experience in order to grow. It’s only once we can assert ourselves and say “I will not tolerate x,y,z” that we can be whole, healthy and not in bondage to someone else, but instead stand free in a relationship.

You make me Brave

Fear should never be the leader of your life, or dictator of your dreams. Yet, fear still holds our voices at times, causing us not to be heard or known. We are afraid of what people will think so we choose not to share our hearts . We stay silent to keep peace and save face. The truth being that we are not called to sacrifice truth in order to protect people’s feelings. Fear is not suppose to outweigh the value of our words.

When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak. -Audre Lorde.

You were created to be heard.There are graveyards full of unwritten books and stories that people let slip away because they believed what they had to say wasn’t valuable.

You are carrying a significant gifting on your life. You are not called to act out of fear but be someone who through loving-kindness you share your heart. Love is many things however it is not deceitful. There is nothing toxic that comes from giving and receiving genuine love. You should always be truthful, and in your truthfulness others will find value and the breakthrough in their lives that they so desperately need.

People pleasing hides the real you. The fear of man will ultimately gain you nothing. If you desire people to get to know the real you, it requires you to be vulnerable. Vulnerability will not always be well received, however your words in a situation have the power to change the situation itself. It does not do anyone a favour to hide who you are, because ultimately you are the one who loses the most. If you cannot lower the walls that you have built to protect yourself, it will create an inability to receive love and be fully known. Sometimes you don’t realize the weight of your words until you are able to feel the weight of their release.



Overall it has been a productive weekend. The house is clean, I got a new phone and I finally got my brakes changed just in time for winter! I was just as inspired to share my outfit today, photo credits go to my wonderful husband.

Jeans-Warehouse one                                                                                                                       Cardigan- Bryan’s                                                                                                                                   Shirt- Below the Belt                                                                                                                       Necklace- Sirens                                                                                                                                    Boots-Sirens

Thanks for checking in and I hope you all have a wonderful week. XO.

Morning Glory

Hello Lovelies!! Tonight me and Michael cooked this delicious meal for our family and it was to good not to share! We cooked mixed berry cream cheese crepes and a crescent roll bacon breakfast ring…I would be lying if I said I didn’t go back into the fridge and grab some leftovers while writing this post.


I don’t know if you’ve ever seen pinterest fails of things people have tried to make and failed but I have to admit I thought this was going to be one of them. However it was a lot easier then it looks. If I could make it then so can you…. and here’s how:



Here’s what you will need:

1 can Pillsbury Crescents (8 in a can)
8 slices of cooked bacon
½ red bell pepper, chopped
½ green bell pepper, chopped
5 eggs
1 cup cheddar cheese, shredded
salt and pepper to taste
1 egg for egg wash (optional)

What to do:
Preheat oven to 375 F degrees.
In a bowl beat the eggs and add the chopped peppers to it and stir. Season with salt and pepper. Cook the eggs in a skillet so that they’re scrambled.
Lay out the crescent on a parchment pepper, like a star as shown in the picture above.
On each crescent lay a piece of bacon. Add half of the cheese around the ring. Add the scrambled eggs around the ring and top with remainder of the cheese.
Fold the crescents over. You may now brush with the egg wash if you prefer, I did because it gives the ring a nice and golden colour.
Bake for about 20 minutes or until the crescents are cooked and golden brown.

Once you’ve got that cooking start on your crepe…

3/4 cup milk
1/2 cup water
1 tablespoon coconut sugar (or brown sugar)
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
2 large eggs
1 cup white whole wheat flour

Berry Sauce:
1 cup fresh or frozen raspberries
1 cup fresh or frozen blueberries
1 cup fresh or frozen sliced strawberries
1/2 cup sugar
1/2 cup water
1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon
4 oz cream cheese, softened
2 tablespoons sugar
2 tablespoons lemon juice

Prepare the crepes: Place all crepe ingredients in a blender. Blend on high speed a few seconds until completely smooth. Transfer batter to a measuring glass and chill in refrigerator at least 30 minutes (batter may be stored in fridge up to 1 day)
While the crepe batter chills, prepare the berry sauce: Place all sauce ingredients in a medium saucepan. Bring to a simmer over medium-high heat, then reduce to low and let simmer, stirring occasionally until sauce is reduced and slightly thickened. Remove from heat and set aside.

Make the filling: Place cream cheese and sugar in a small bowl. With a handheld electric mixer, beat on medium speed until creamed. Add lemon juice and continue beating until filling is smooth and creamy. Set aside.
Cook the crepes: Heat a lightly-greased non-stick skillet over medium-high heat. Working in batches pour 1/4 cup batter in pan. Cook 1-2 minutes on first side, then flip and cook an additional 1 minute on opposite side. Transfer to a serving plate and keep warm. Repeat with remaining batter.
Assemble the crepes: Evenly spread cream cheese filling over each of the crepes. Fold crepes into quarters. Serve immediately with warm berry sauce on top. Enjoy!


And voila! There you have it! We will definitely be making this again 🙂

Let me know how your adventures in making this recipe goes

Much Love-GG

A place that feels like home

Today my question to you is what do you place your hope in? Is it in your own ability? Is it in the Lord? Do you have you hope in your spouse or your kids? Your job? Your money?

Right now I am sitting precisely 1660 km away from Redding California, “The City of Hope”.  I don’t know if I could begin to express how much being there ever meant to me, but I will do my best to try. In 2006 my mom died from a drunk driver crashing into her car. I was 14, and relied heavily on my mom up until that point. My family literally fell apart after.  My dad buried himself in work, leaving his three broken children to try and figure out how to raise themselves. It was one hard year after another- and I lacked in much, but most of all I lacked the affirmation, and care that a mother brings.

Fast forward several years to after high school where you find a very angry , bitter girl who seeks love and affirmation from men because she hadn’t found any in her father. At the time my brother came back from Bethel School in Redding. He was  visiting for the christmas season, and had persuaded me to throw my hat in the ring to see if I could get accepted into the same school. I was accepted almost immediately after applying and the very next year ended up traveling to Redding with my brother.

In the years that I was there felt like I was alive again. A place where I could finally breathe and get the healing I so desperately needed. While there people loved on me so extravagantly that I began to open up and love again. I grew in faith, confidence and finally had a hope for the future. That was until I got a call to return home, my visa had expired in the States and it was time to go. I remember having a week left and  feeling like I was returning home to a funeral.

Hopeless and feeling alone I spent months searching for every possible option to get back to the place that I once was. Nothing worked and no door opened. I had trusted in myself to be able to get where I wanted to go and ultimately failed. The Bible says: “The Lord will open doors that no man can close, and close doors that no man can open. In my case I believe that the Lord so graciously brought me to a place that I felt alive and got healing for my benefit. He made a way for me to go and provided extravagantly for it. He still hasn’t opened the door for me to return yet.

Here’s what I believe about the situation. I believe regardless of the current circumstances and my hearts desires that God is good. I don’t believe he’s cruel enough that he would put dreams our heart and not fulfill them. In the seasons where we don’t see him moving we have to believe that he is for us and ultimately has our best interest in heart. If I would have left when I wanted to leave I would have never met my husband Michael. He’s my best friend and a HUGE answer to prayer. Even though I am not where I currently want to be, I have to believe that it is because that Lord still has a purpose for me here and good things coming, and one day I believe that he will open a door to go back when the time is right.

Today I want to challenge you to put your hope in the Lord. If you have never experienced him as a good father, ask him to reveal himself to you. He is faithful and he is for you. It is not inherently evil trusting in things like your family, money or jobs however they are all things that can fail you. Put you hope in the unshakable one, the one who made you with all your hopes, dreams and desires and can open the doors to bring them to fulfillment in your life.


Here’s to new beginnings


Hello wonderful people,

Today is the ultimate fresh start of a beautiful journey with you. My goal is to inspire you as you read about my life, hopes, dreams and desires. I’m a 24 year old fashionista, who is into hair, makeup, trends and almost anything associated with being a girly-girl. As we grow deeper together you will learn about my heart for justice, my wild entrepreneurial ideas and my wanderlust for hot destinations .

The man standing next to me happens to be someone very near and dear to my heart. The story of how we met comes a little later on, however I know as you continuing reading my posts you will grow in adoration for him just as I have found myself doing.

Thanks for checking my page out and stay tuned for more

Much Love-GG